People can sometimes be held hostage by their expectations. They have a dream of something they would like to achieve or a path they intend to follow… - James Clear

Think about the little things you enjoy, then turn around and do them for someone else.

If you feel relief when someone asks a question in class, then other students are probably relieved too. Be the one who asks.

If you love it when a friend calls to check in, your friends probably love it too. Be the one who calls.

If it makes your whole day when someone compliments your outfit, other people probably love it too. Give out more compliments.

Your relationships will rarely be healthier than your self-esteem.

If the time you spend alone is already enjoyable to some degree—that is, if you have a healthy internal monologue and generally feel good about yourself—then you will have a fairly high bar for the type of relationships you'll enter.

But if you're unhappy with yourself, then you are more likely to put up with bad relationships because they may occasionally make you feel better than you do alone. If you want a great relationship, the first thing you want is to be comfortable with yourself.

The things you take pride in are the same things you are likely to be biased about.

How might the things you take pride in be misleading you?

The tighter you cling to your current identity, the harder it becomes to grow beyond it.