the truth is that life is risky and dangerous, - Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

"I think it is cruel to expect the constant presence of any one family member (to tend to the ill). Just as we have to breathe in and breathe out, people have to "recharge their batteries" outside the sickroom at times, live a normal life from time to time; we cannot function efficiently in the constant awareness of illness. I have heard many relatives complain that members of the family went on pleasure trips over weekends or continued to go to the theater or movie. They blamed them for enjoying things while someone at home was terminally ill. I think it is more meaningful for the patient and his family to see that the illness does not totally disrupt a household or completely deprive all members of any pleasurable activities; rather, the illness may allow for a gradual adjustment and change toward the kind of home it is going to be when the patient is no longer around...The family too has a need to deny or avoid the sad realities at times in order to face them better when their presence is really needed."

if you go and dance at a lot of weddings,
youll cry at a lot of funerals.
if you were at the beginning of many moments,
youll be there when they end.
if you have a lot of friends,
youll experience that many break ups.
if you think that the loss you feel is great,
its because youve attempted that many things in your life.
if you made a lot of mistakes,
its better than having lived without doing anything at all.
it is not unhappiness to be unable to reach a star,
unhappiness is that you don't have a star that you cannot reach.

Trying to find out who you are will lead you to the work you need to do, the lessons you need to learn. When our inner and outer beings are one, we no longer need to hide, fear, or protect ourselves. We see who we are as something that transcends our circumstances.