La única finalidad de la vida es crecer. La lección última es aprender a amar y a ser amados incondicionalmente. - Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

time. Then you can relax. Philosophically, patience is like a muscle that must regularly be used, it must be exercised and trusted. If we don’t practice using the muscle in little, everyday situations — such as letting the tea take a minute or two to heat in the microwave — we won’t have a strong muscle to support us through life’s bigger challenges.

Most people’s initial reaction to sad people is to try to cheer them up, to tell them not to look at things so grimly, to look at the bright side of life. This cheering-up reaction is often an expression of that person’s own needs and that person’s own inability to tolerate a long face over an extended period. A mourner should be allowed to experience his sorrow, and he will be grateful for those who can sit with him without telling him not to be sad.

We will never like this reality or make it okay, but eventually we accept it.