As a woman gets more successful, she is less liked by people of both genders, and as a man gets more successful, he does not take a likability hit. - Sheryl Sandberg

The researchers speculated that men in traditional marriages are not overtly hostile toward women but instead are “benevolent sexists” — holding positive yet outdated views about women.10 (Another term I have heard is “nice guy misogynists.”)

But instead of blaming women for not negotiating more, we need to recognize that women often have good cause to be reluctant to advocate for their own interests because doing so can easily backfire.

I thought resilience was the capacity to endure pain, so I asked Adam how I could figure out how much I had. He explained that our amount of resilience isn’t fixed, so I should be asking instead how I could become resilient. Resilience is the strength and speed of our response to adversity — and we can build it. It isn’t about having a backbone. It’s about strengthening the muscles around our backbone.