The only way someone can be of help to you is in challenging your ideas. If you're ready to listen and if you're ready to be challenged, there's one … - Anthony de Mello

It is a sobering thought that the finest act of love you can perform is not an act of service but an act of contemplation, of seeing.

Love springs from awareness. It is only inasmuch as you see someone as he or she really is here and now, and not as they are in your memory or your desire or in your imagination or projection, that you can truly love them. Otherwise, it is not the person that you love but the idea that you have formed of this person, or this person as the object of your desire, not as he or she is in themselves.

When you fight something, you're tied to it forever. As long as you're fighting it, you are giving it power. You give it as much power as you are using to fight it.