The formula is simple: In any given situation, detach and ask, “What do I need to do to take care of myself? - Melody Beattie

Do we really have the right to take care of ourselves? Do we really have the right to set boundaries? Do we really have the right to be direct and say what we need to say? You bet we do.

It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere. — AGNES REPPLIER, The Treasure Chest

Some people strive to relinquish all expectations and live moment to moment. That is admirable. But I think the important idea here is to take responsibility for our expectations. Get them out into the light. Examine them. Talk about them. If they involve other people, talk to the people involved. Find out if they have similar expectations. See if they’re realistic.