We plant the seeds of resilience in the ways we process negative events. After spending decades studying how people deal with setbacks, psychologist … - Sheryl Sandberg

three P’s can stunt recovery: (1) personalization — the belief that we are at fault; (2) pervasiveness — the belief that an event will affect all areas of our life; and (3) permanence — the belief that the aftershocks of the event will last forever.

My coworkers should understand that I need to go to a party tonight — and this is just as legitimate as their kids' soccer game — because going to a party is the only way I might actually meet someone and start a family so I can have a soccer game to go to one day!

All over the world, there is cultural pressure to conceal negative emotions. In China and Japan, the ideal emotional state is calm and composed. In the United States, we like excitement (OMG!) and enthusiasm (LOL!). As psychologist David Caruso observes, “American culture demands that the answer to the question ‘How are you?’ is not just ‘Good.’…We need to be ‘Awesome.’ ” Caruso adds, “There’s this relentless drive to mask the expression of our true underlying feelings.” Admitting that you’re having a rough time is “almost inappropriate.

Wer sich heute einen Plan für morgen macht, ist morgen vielleicht auf die Möglichkeiten von heute beschränkt.