Wake up in the morning and declare what it is that you’ll celebrate today. Even better, write it down. Celebrate all of it — the good, the bad, the not yet happened; the key is that you truly rejoice in the feeling of gratitude for everything.

Let’s review, shall we? 1. List off your old stories that you’ve gotten into the habit of thinking and saying. 2. Journal about the false rewards you get from them. 3. Feel into these false rewards, thank them for their help, and decide to let them go. 4. Take each false reward and write a new, powerful story to replace it with. 5. Repeat this new story, or affirmation, over and over and over until it becomes your truth. 6. Behold your awesome new life.

Imagine what our world would be like if everyone loved themselves so much that they weren’t threatened by other people’s opinions or skin colors or sexual preferences or talents or education or possessions or lack of possessions or religious beliefs or customs or their general tendency to just be whoever the hell they are.

*The definition of screwing someone over is taking their money and doing a lousy job or destroying their water source or enslaving populations, things like that — your mother being disappointed or your father disapproving or your friends being outraged does not qualify as screwing someone over.