Ordinary things done consistently produce extraordinary results. - Matthew Hussey

I wince at the lack of compassion I showed myself, and at just how dangerous my determination and tolerance for pain can be when directed at the wrong target — in this case, martyrdom in a relationship where most of my core needs weren’t being met.

Often, when people advise, ‘Just be yourself,’ it’s a way of saying, ‘Don’t grow and change.’ What’s more, friends offer this advice when just being yourself has left you miserable and lonely. What they are really telling you is to stick with what you know, to stay with what is comfortable. And what I am telling you is that the new and improved you is you. You are not changing who you are, you are becoming who you are.

The right relationship is one where
things get better when you communicate. If your relationship gets worse
when one of you speaks the truth, you’re in the wrong relationship.