Odds are, the latest office debate or family squabble isn't worth winning. Most arguments are only tangentially related to your end goal. What outco… - James Clear

Step 1: Know exactly what you want. Have a big vision that is crystal clear.

Step 2: Know exactly what is true. See reality for what it is and accept the honest facts of the situation.

Step 3: Be flexible in the way you close the gap between 1 and 2.

Bold. Rational. Adaptable.

Some things work and some things don't. There is almost always another way to get where you want to go. Don't keep trying to open a locked door.

Do things for your own satisfaction. Consider praise from others to be a bonus. If you don't work for their validation in the first place, you won't need it to feel satisfied once it's done.