The more you seek a woman who gives you everything, the less you get of anything. - David Deida

If you are waiting for anything in order to live and love without holding back, then you suffer. Every moment is the most important moment of your life. No future time is better than now to let down your guard and love.

Herein lies the delicious torture, the 'flowery combat' of intimacy — the lover who really turns you on deep in your sexual heart will also really frustrate you in more superficial moments. If you have a feminine essence, then your masculine lover's deep confidence and integrity will turn you on, except when bulldozing your feelings and nit-picking the content of everything you say in a moment of conflict. If you have a masculine essence, then your feminine lover's spontaneous laughter and fluid sexual responsiveness will turn you on, except during times of whacko hysteria and unpredictable shutdowns. In moments of deep communion, the masculine and feminine open as a singular gift — two facets of one jewel.

You can share many aspects of intimacy — business, friendship, parenting, and sexual passion — only if you choose a single priority to the relationship and allow all the other activities to align themselves around your main purpose for being together.