Scars signal skin in the game. - Nassim Nicholas Taleb

"Advice given to any young person: "I can't tell you what to do. I can tell who what I've done. I've instinctively never gotten into a zero-sum business, such as academia, sports, bureaucracy, etc. The mark of a zero-sum business is hierarchy." " -

The excess energy released from overreaction to setbacks is what innovates!

By all means, avoid words — threats, complaints, justification, narratives, reframing, attempts to win arguments, supplications; avoid words!