acknowledging all that has been lost and learning to live with that loss. It would be too soon for Keith to be able to accept this situation. He can … - Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

"I think it is cruel to expect the constant presence of any one family member (to tend to the ill). Just as we have to breathe in and breathe out, people have to "recharge their batteries" outside the sickroom at times, live a normal life from time to time; we cannot function efficiently in the constant awareness of illness. I have heard many relatives complain that members of the family went on pleasure trips over weekends or continued to go to the theater or movie. They blamed them for enjoying things while someone at home was terminally ill. I think it is more meaningful for the patient and his family to see that the illness does not totally disrupt a household or completely deprive all members of any pleasurable activities; rather, the illness may allow for a gradual adjustment and change toward the kind of home it is going to be when the patient is no longer around...The family too has a need to deny or avoid the sad realities at times in order to face them better when their presence is really needed."

Love has to come from within, if it is to come at all. And I'm still not there.

في الواقع سوف تفجع دائماً وأبداً. لن تتجاوز موت محب، سوف تتعلم أن تتعايش مع هذه الخسارة. سوف تشفى وتبني نفسك من جديد حول محور الرحيل الذي عانيت منه. سوف تكتمل مجدداً ولكنك لن تعود أنت. لن تكون مثلما السابق. لن تعود أنت ولا يجب أن تتمنى ذلك.

تعلم أن تتواصل مع الصمت في داخلك، واعلم أن لكل شيء في الحياة مبتغى. ليس وجوده عن خطأ او عن صدف، كل الأحداث نعم قدمت إلينا لنتعلم منها.

الأشخاص الأجمل من بين الذين قابلتهم هم أولئك الذين عرفوا الهزيمة والكفاح والعذاب والخسارة، ووجدوا طريقتهم الخاصة للخروج من الأعماق السحيقة. هؤلاء الأشخاص لهم رؤيتهم وحساسيتهم وفهمهم للحياة. يملؤهم التعاطف والتواضع والبساطة، والقلق المحب العميق. الأشخاص الجميلون لا يأتون من لا شيء.