If there was ever a bigger pansy than my father, it was Marcel Proust. - Alison Bechdel

I'd been upstaged, demoted from protagonist in my own drama to comic relief in my parents' tragedy

Ginger: Get off it, Mo. If I can't ogle, I don't want to be part of your revolution.

Alice Miller writes that the child who suppresses his own feelings in order to accomodate a parent has been, in a sense, abandoned.

'Later, when these feelings of being deserted begin to emerge in the analysis of the adult, they are accompanied by such intensity of pain and despair that it is quite clear that these people could not have survived so much pain. That would only have been possible in an empathic, attentive environment, and this they lacked. [as quoted by Alice Miller]'

She also says that the mother who requires accommodation from her child is just trying to get what her own mother refused her.