what you pay attention to will define, for you, what reality is. - Oliver Burkeman

What is true is already so. Owning up to it doesn't make it worse. Not being open about it doesn't make it go away. And because it's true, it is what is there to be interacted with. Anything untrue isn't there to be lived. People can stand what is true, for they are already enduring it.' – EUGENE GENDLIN

The goal, it seemed, had become a part of their identity, and so their uncertainty about the goal no longer merely threatened the plan; it threatened them as individuals.

Choose uncomfortable enlargement over comfortable diminishment whenever you can.