[T]he things which we criticize most readily in others are usually things of which we are least conscious in ourselves. - Alan Watts

To define means to fix, and, when you get down to it, real life isn't fixed.

"It is surely absurd to seek God in terms of a preconceived idea of what God is. To seek thus is only to find what we know already, which is why it is so easy to deceove oneself into all manner of "supernatural" experiences and visions. To believe in God and to look for the God you believe in is simply to seek confirmation of an opinion."

The full splendour of sexual experience does not reveal itself without a new mode of attention to the world in general.