I looked at other couples and wondered how they could be so calm about it. They held hands as if they weren't even holding hands. When Steve and I he… - Miranda July

Things usually make sense in time, and even bad decisions have their own kind of correctness.

Will you date me when I ask you out? it asked.

Yes.

Even if I’m ugly and you don’t like my personality?

Yes.

No, you won’t.

I will!

You’re just saying that because you’re in a hurry.

Well, it won’t be my fault if I miss the bus.

Goodbye, sweetness.

Bye! Where’s my backpack?

It’s on the counter.

Oh. Bye!

But as the sun rose I crested the mountain of my self-pity and remembered I was always going to die at the end of this life anyway. What did it really matter if I spent it like this — caring for this boy — as opposed to some other way? I would always be earthbound; he hadn’t robbed me of my ability to fly or to live forever. I appreciated nuns now, not the conscripted kind, but modern women who chose it. If you were wise enough to know that this life would consist mostly of letting go of things you wanted, then why not get good at the letting go, rather than the trying to have? These exotic revelations bubbled up involuntarily and I began to understand that the sleeplessness and vigilance and constant feedings were a form of brainwashing, a process by which my old self was being molded, slowly but with a steady force, into a new shape: a mother. It hurt. I tried to be conscious while it happened, like watching my own surgery. I hoped to retain a tiny corner of the old me, just enough to warn other women with. But I knew this was unlikely; when the process was complete I wouldn’t have anything left to complain with, it wouldn’t hurt anymore, I wouldn’t remember.