Jika Anda menginginkan perdamaian, jangan berbicara dengan teman-temanmu. Kamu berbicara dengan musuhmu. - Desmond Tutu

He made a powerful distinction between healing and curing: Curing involves the resolution of the illness but was not always possible. Healing, he said, was coming to wholeness and could happen whether or not the illness was curable.

"It always comes back to our insecurities, as we say, "Oh, I'm not as good as you." So instead of accepting that perhaps I am not as good as someone else in some ways and being comfortable with who I am as I am, I spend all my time denigrating you, trying to cut you down to my self-perceived size. The sad problem is that we see ourselves as being quite terribly small. Instead of spending my time being envious, I need to celebrate your and my different gifts, even if mine are perhaps less spectacular than yours."

He has a childlike, boyish, impish, mischievousness. And I have to try and make him behave properly, like a holy man!