When you start to view each day not as a matter of paying off a debt, but as an opportunity to move a small-but-meaningful number of items over to yo… - Oliver Burkeman

It's alarming to face the prospect that you might never truly feel as though you know what you're doing, in work, marriage, parenting, or anything else. But it's liberating, too, because it removes a central reason for feeling self-conscious or inhibited about your performance in those domains in the present moment: if the feeling of total authority is never going to arrive, you might as well not wait any longer to give such activities your all — to put bold plans into practice, to stop erring on the side of caution. It is even more liberating to reflect that everyone else is in the same boat, whether they're aware of it or not.

Let your impossible standards crash to the ground. Then pick a few meaningful tasks from the rubble and get started on them today.

it's 'like driving a car at night. You never see further than your headlights, but you can make the whole trip that way.')