some people are thermometers, some are thermostats. You’re a thermostat. You don’t register the temperature in a room, you change it. - Andre Agassi

I've internalized my father- his impatience, his perfectionism, his rage. I no longer need my father to torture me. From this day on, I can do it all by myself.

Gil’s philosophy in all things is to seek the pain, woo the pain, recognize that pain is life. If you’re heartbroken, Gil says, don’t hide from it. Wallow in it. We hurt, he says, so let’s hurt.

Feeling depressed after a loss is one thing, but feeling depressed about nothing, about life in general, is another thing altogether.

The minds of the everlasting gods are not changed suddenly