Many of us are so addicted to recreating the same experiences that we don't make space for new ones. What you were actually doing at the start of you… - Jay Shetty

Do not give your attention to what others do or fail to do; give it to what you do or fail to do.

As Iyanla Vanzant said to Oprah, “… until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex; but eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them.” Once you’ve unpacked your own bags and you’ve healed yourself (mostly), then you’ll come to relationships ready to give. You won’t be looking to them to solve your problems or fill a hole. Nobody completes you. You’re not half. You don’t have to be perfect, but you have to come to a place of giving. Instead of draining anyone else, you’re nourishing them.

Alone, we learn to love ourselves, to understand ourselves, to heal our own pain, and to care for ourselves.