When you're depressed, it is very hard to love yourself. When you don't love yourself, it's hard to have a healthy relationship with someone else. - Alexi Pappas

I learned that the time to make up my mind about what is possible is never.

"I was no longer down to "meet at 3-ish for a run somewhere", because I understood that the back-and-forth texting leading up to the run would cost me some willpower."

Imagine that all of a sudden, pursuing your goal is not an option at all for you anymore. It has been magically taken away. How do you feel? If you feel relief, then you know it wasn't right for you. But if you feel heartbroken imagining a world where you can't chase your goal, then the decision to commit is clear.