Clarice: [proposing to Toni] I'll be your lawyer if you'll be my accountant. - Alison Bechdel

Here's the vital core of Winnicott's theory:
The subject must destroy the object. And the object must survive this destruction. If the object doesn't survive, it will remain internal, a projection of the subject's self. If the object survives destruction, the subject can see it as separate.

It's our very capacity for self-consciousness that makes us self-destructive!

It's a world gone mad! Pacifists paying for boot camp! Feminists learning to pole dance! Geeks flipping tractor tires! And the trends keep coming!