Humility: It is better to presume ignorance and invite learning than to assume sufficient knowledge and risk the consequent blindness. - Jordan Peterson

You're not perfect just the way you are. You could be better!

The first: limit the rules. The second: Use the least force necessary to enforce those rules.

Thinking leads inexorably to the abyss. It did not work for Tolstoy. It might not even have worked for Nietzsche, who arguably thought more clearly about such things than anyone in history. But if it is not thinking that can be relied upon in the direst of situations, what is left? Thought, after all, is the highest of human achievements, is it not?
Perhaps not.
Something supersedes thinking, despite its truly awesome power. When existence reveals itself as existentially intolerable, thinking collapses in on itself. In such situations — in the depths — it’s noticing, not thinking, that does the trick.