I tell people that I’ve never been hurt by an honest question, and that’s true: it’s a cruel opinion that hurts, not a question. - Kate Bornstein

They believe (foolishly I think) that the power they have and exert over others is a good thing and they want to hang on to it, they're terrified of losing this stuff. What I'm talking about is what's been called '.'

Gender is not sane. It's not sane to call a rainbow black and white.

There are only people who are fluidly-gendered, and … the norm is that most of these people continually struggle to maintain the illusion that they are one gender or another.