We take the most difficult relationship of our childhood... and we MARRY it. - Rick Cormier

Three things make up who we are as individuals: what we think, what we feel, and what we do. If we manage to change any one of these three aspects of ourselves, the other two will follow.

But they are experts at using their victim's need for attention and affection to manipulate them. It's important to understand that, while abusers are incapable of loving others, they're incapable of loving themselves, also. Abusers need to feel superior. They will obsessively find fault, teach, correct and criticize.

because you didn't give him any cookies. All abusers want you to believe that you can stop the abuse by changing yourself.