To recognize that “I am the one who chooses” and “I am the one who determines the value of an experience for me” is both an invigorating and a fright… - Carl Rogers

The term “congruent” is one I have used to describe the way I would like to be. By this I mean that whatever feeling or attitude I am experiencing would be matched by my awareness of that attitude. When this is true, then I am a unified or integrated person in that moment, and hence I can be whatever I deeply am. This is a reality which I find others experience as dependable.

So, while I still hate to readjust my thinking, still hate to give up old ways of perceiving and conceptualizing, yet at some deeper level I have, to a considerable degree, come to realize that these painful reorganizations are what is known as learning.

Freedom from a desire to control the outcome, and respect for the capacity of the group, and skills in releasing individual expression