Awake or asleep in a grass hut, I pray to bring others across before myself. - Dōgen

which way the man should choose is not the issue here at all. Whichever way he goes he will have problems. The deeper problem is mistaking a “fact” in life for the “truth” of life, the former simply being an aspect of our psychological or emotional landscape by which we need not be pulled and tossed about, while the latter is that reality of life upon which we settle as “true adults”. “True adults” is an expression the Rōshi uses to mean bodhisattvas.

What you think in your own mind to be good, or what people of the world think is good, is not necessarily good.

If you have compassion and are imbued with the spirit of the Way, it is of no consequence to be criticized, even reviled, by the ignorant. But if you lack the spirit of the Way, you should be wary of being thought of by others as having the Way.