Think about your hero. Do you think of this person as someone with extraordinary abilities who achieved with little effort? Now go find out the truth… - Carol S. Dweck

When Do You Feel Smart: When You’re Flawless or When You’re Learning?

… see failure not as a sign of stupidity but as a lack of experience and skill.

(Seth Abrams)

I’ve met with many coaches and they ask me: “What happened to the coachable athletes? Where did they go?” Many of the coaches lament that when they give their athletes corrective feedback, the athletes grumble that their confidence is being undermined. Sometimes the athletes phone home and complain to their parents. They seem to want coaches who will simply tell them how talented they are and leave it at that. The coaches say that in the old days after a little league game or a kiddie soccer game, parents used to review and analyze the game on the way home and give helpful (process) tips. Now on the ride home, they say, parents heap blame on the coaches and referees for the child’s poor performance or the team’s loss. They don’t want to harm the child’s confidence by putting the blame on the child.