When we see the giant, why do we automatically assume the battle is his for the winning? - Malcolm Gladwell
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When we see the giant, why do we automatically assume the battle is his for the winning?
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Malcolm Gladwell
Malcolm Timothy Gladwell (born September 3, 1963) is an English-born Canadian journalist, bestselling author, and speaker. He has been a staff writer for The New Yorker since 1996.
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