But the more I met other people like me the more I realized how privileged I am that I didn’t get an operation -- that, I’m thankful that I did not g… - Nthabiseng Mokoena

This led me to joining NGOs that claimed to support intersex people, I don’t remember many intersex people being supported but in the end I was caught up with policy meetings, legislation consultations, movement politics and eventually we all forgot about the people we were trying to serve. I had to leave and here I am constantly dealing with the guilt of “leaving the movement”.

I really struggled to get clarity from my parents about who I am and, you know, ‘where I come from.

It is hard to talk about intersex activism in South Africa and not mention the ground breaking work of Sally Gross, a South African intersex activist and founder of the Intersex Society of South Africa.