Do not accept a ‘come-we-stay’ arrangement. I dismisse wife inheritance as …a good thing overtaken by time and circumstances. - Nyiva Mwendwa

I advise widows to remarry for the sake of the children if they feel they cannot manage on their own.

Keeping aloof will break you. Share your problems with other widows. Mama Ngina Kenyatta (Kenya’s pioneer First Lady), Pamela Mboya and Mrs Argwings Kodhek (both widows of Cabinet Ministers in the Kenyatta government) were close to me and I consulted them a lot.

We must target changing attitudes among men and boys in order to create lasting improvements for women and girls. From experience, I can categorically say that an educated man in my opinion— one who is enlightened and not with academic credentials, will not be threatened by a woman.