It is very important for us
to realize that love, to be true,
has to hurt. I must be willing to
give whatever it takes not to harm
other people and, in fact, to do
good to them. This requires that
I be willing to give until it hurts.
Otherwise there is no true love
in me and I bring injustice,
not peace, to those around me.

Hurt has nothing to do with love, and love is unaffiliated with and unaffected by pain. We say, “My heart is full of love,” but love is not bound in our heart or our relationships, and thus, it is not caged and capable of being poked, taunted, or trapped. And no amount of love — no matter the pain or hurt — is ever

As long as there is hurt, it's a sign there is love. Once you stop hurting, you love has died

If you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, just more love

Love demands sacrifice. But if we love until it hurts, God will give us His peace and joy…. Suffering in itself is nothing; but suffering shared with Christ’s Passion is a wonderful gift.

Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed, and rare.

I truly believe that while love can hurt, love can also heal…

Love's an excuse to get hurt and to hurt. Do you like to hurt? I do, I do then hurt me.

Of all the ways we have found to hurt ourselves, the worse has been through love. We are always suffering because of someone who doesn't love us, or someone who has left us, or someone who won't leave us. If we are alone, it is because no one wants us...

reminder: you can love people and simultaneously not allow them to harm you

Must being in love always mean being in pain?

There is no pain equal to that which two lovers can inflict on one another... It is when we begin to hurt those whom we love that the guilt with which we are born becomes intolerable, and since all those whom we love intensely and continuously grow part of us, and since we hate ourselves in them, so we torture ourselves and them together.

I have found the paradox that if I love until it hurts, then there is no hurt, but only more love.

Become fluent in the language of letting go. Learn to give people up before they hurt you beyond repair. Even if they tell you that they will change. Even if they tell you that they love you. Just remember, love isn’t meant to be permanently damaging. Love is meant to aid your healing.