And we prepare for love by learning how to love ourselves in solitude. - Jay Shetty

Revenge is the mode of ignorance — it’s often said that you can’t fix yourself by breaking someone else. Monks don’t hinge their choices and feelings on others’ behaviors. You believe revenge will make you feel better because of how the other person will react.

our search is never for a thing, but for the feeling we think the thing will give us.

First, we become aware of a feeling or issue — we spot it. Then we pause to address what the feeling is and where it comes from — we stop to consider it. And last, we amend our behavior — we swap in a new way of processing the moment. SPOT, STOP, SWAP.