All areas of a person’s life, whether it is work, marriage, or raising children, require outward effort, and it is the effort itself that brings abou… - Tom Butler-Bowdon

If you have ever talked about having an “identity crisis” you have psychologist Erik Erikson to thank for inventing the term.

"Our communications are full of road clocks that prevents real communication with others. Two are "judging" and "sending solutions". With people close to us, we fell we should be critical. Otherwise, we don't see how they will ever change. With others, we feel the need to give them a label. But by doing so, we cease to see the person before us, only a type. Our good advice is rarely constructive. We may be so used to having road blocks that we wonder what would be left if we remove them from the style of our conversation. What remains is the ability to understand and empathize with other people and make our concerns clearly known"

For many years, psychology was surprisingly little interested in happiness.