To be happy we need someone to love, something to do, and something to look forward to. I - Melody Beattie

He talks about God, and loving God. he says that when we open to loving a person, whether that person is a spouse, friend, or child, we open our hearts to loving God. He says when we let someone love us, we're opening our hearts to god's love. he says the acts are the same. p 19
I decide loving isn't for the fain. Its for the courageous. p 19

We need to find a balance between solving problems and learning to live with unsolved problems.

At least we know we’re alive if we’re reacting. At least we’ve got something to do if we’re obsessing or controlling.