Your Future Self is the driver of your life. Your Future Self is different than you expect. Your Future Self is inevitable, yet the outcome is option… - Benjamin P. Hardy

Yes, you have a learning preference, or way of doing things. But “your way” will keep you stuck. Instead, you should mindfully assess the situation at hand and do what is required.

Personality — like passion, inspiration, motivation, and confidence — is a by-product of your decisions in life.

You can change your patterns. You can change your roles, but you can only do that by altering your environment — whether that means having frank conversations to reestablish boundaries and expectations, or whether that means physically separating yourself from certain individuals or places. If you remain stuck in the same roles and patterns, it doesn’t matter how much willpower you exert; your efforts will continue to be confined within the limiting context of your role. You’ll remain hostage to a context that you mistakenly believe to be fixed identity. But you absolutely can change your roles, even abruptly and dramatically. People mistakenly believe they must be fully qualified to take on a particular role. But this is false. You actually become qualified through the role itself. For example, when Lauren and I became foster parents, we didn’t have any parenting experience. Sure, I read several books on the topic, many with smart ideas and innovative solutions to try. But theory and experience are two radically different things. I imagine all first-time parents go through a similar trajectory — you learn through doing.