The big question is whether you are going to be able to say a hearty yes to your adventure - Joseph Campbell

"The look that one directs at things, both outward and inward, as an artist, is not the same as that with which one would regard the same as a man, but at once colder and more passionate. As a man, you might be well-disposed, patient, loving, positive, and have a wholly uncritical inclination to look upon everything as all right, but as an artist your daemon constrains you to "observe", to take note, lightning fast and with hurtful malice, of every detail that in the literary sense would be characteristic, distinctive, significant, opening insights, typifying the race, the social or the psychological mode, recording all as mercilessly as though you had no human relationship to the observed object whatever."

A mythological image that has to be explained to the brain is not working.

In marriage you are not sacrificing yourself to the other person. You are sacrificing yourself to the relationship.