Change for yourself, not just for a goal. - Najwa Zebian

doesn’t matter how much we change ourselves, when we are surrounded by the same people who make us feel that being ourselves is wrong or too much, that change just feels more imprisoning. Because now we know what we are worth.

According to this theory, there are are four major styles of attachment that people form early in life and carry into adulthood: secure, anxious, avoidant, and anxious-avoidant. A secure person is an at-home person; they’re comfortable with connection and don’t base their worthiness on external sources of validation. An anxious person is the complete opposite; they’re in constant need of validation and come from a place of fear of abandonment. An avoidant person may come across as secure, but they avoid connection out of fear of abandonment. And an anxious-avoidant is a combination of the previous two.

I see how hard you’re trying. I see how hard this is on you. You are making progress. I’m proud of you. You are getting stronger every day, and you will get to the point where you can trust yourself in the decision you need to make.