All our experiences are rich colors that make a full life. - Melody Beattie

God, help me pay attention to my behaviors during the process of initiating relationships. Help me take responsibility for myself and learn what I need to learn. I will trust that the people I want and need will come into my life. I understand that if a relationship is not good for me, I have the right and ability to refuse to enter into it — even though the other person thinks it may be good for him or her.

...the pain that comes from loving someone who's in trouble can be profound.

"Once they have been affected — -once "it" sets in — -codependency takes on a life of its own. It is similar to catching pneumonia or picking up a destructive habit. Once you've got it, you've got it.

If you want to get rid of it, YOU have to do something to make it go away. It doesn't matter whose fault it is. Your codependency becomes your problem; solving your problems is your responsibility."