I saw people who were hostile; they had felt so much hurt that hostility was their only defense against being crushed again. - Melody Beattie

Worrying, obsessing, and controlling are illusions. They are tricks we play on ourselves.

The right wave will come. When
it does, grab your board, jump on,
and ride it for all it’s worth.

Many codependents: have lived through events and with people that were out of control, causing the codependents sorrow and disappointment. become afraid to let other people be who they are and allow events to happen naturally. don’t see or deal with their fear of loss of control. think they know best how things should turn out and how people should behave. try to control events and people through helplessness, guilt, coercion, threats, advice-giving, manipulation, or domination. eventually fail in their efforts or provoke people’s anger. get frustrated and angry. feel controlled by events and people. DENIAL