David Deida Quotes

If you know your purpose, your deepest desire, then the secret of success is to discipline your life so that you support your deepest purpose and minimize distractions and detours.

How can you tell if your woman’s self-direction is healthy for her? If she becomes more and more full and happy as she pursues her direction, then it is good for her. If she becomes more and more stressed, taut, and emotionally angular, then she is animating excess masculine direction.

You can share many aspects of intimacy — business, friendship, parenting, and sexual passion — only if you choose a single priority to the relationship and allow all the other activities to align themselves around your main purpose for being together.

Each purpose, each mission, is meant to be fully lived to the point where it becomes empty, boring, and useless. Then it should be discarded. This is a sign of growth, but you may mistake it for a sign of failure.

Share your emotions with your women friends who can more easily resonate with you, and bring yourself to your intimate partner already healed by such sharing. Let him heal you and love you in his unique way. Let him heal and love you in the masculine style, as the most intimate man in your life.

Stop waiting. Feel everything. Love achingly. Give impeccably. Let go.

Bugün ne yap ki, bu gece yatağa girdiğinde, verebileceğin her şeyi vermiş ol, en derin şekilde sevgini sunmuş ol ve verebileceğin en hakiki armağanların hepsini sunmuş ol? Gün be gün bu şekilde yaşamak ölüme hazırlanma yoludur. Günlük eylemlerini bu en derin amacının çağrısıyla birleştirdiğinde pişmanlık duymadan ve onurunla yaşayabilirsin.

Most men have made their women into swimming pools by continually treating them like men, talking with them about their feelings as if they can be analyzed to the point of “fixing” them.

Your woman knows your weaknesses better than anybody. She knows where you will falter and give up. She knows the degree of mediocrity you will settle for. And, she knows your true capacity as a full man, a man of free consciousness and love. Her gift, if she is a good woman, is to test you with her darkest moods, over and over and over, until your consciousness is unperturbed by feminine challenge, and you are able to pervade her with your love, just as you are here to pervade the world. In response to your fearless consciousness, she will drench your world in love and light.” — David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man

Women do not become free by analyzing themselves. They become free by surrendering into love. Not your love. Their love. They become free by surrendering to the immense flow of love that is native to their core and allowing their lives to be moved by this force in their heart. It may involve moments of analysis, but primarily it involves deep trust.

Take away anything that dulls your edge. No newspapers or magazines. No TV. No candy, cookies, or sweets. No sex. No cuddling. No reading of anything at all while you eat or sit on the toilet. Reduce working time to a necessary minimum. No movies. No conversation that isn’t about truth, love, or the divine. If you take on these disciplines for a few weeks, as well as any other disciplines that may particularly cut through your unique habits of dullness, then your life will be stripped of routine distraction. All that will be left is the edge you have been avoiding by means of your daily routine. You will have to face the basic discomfort and dissatisfaction that is the hidden texture of your life. You will be alive with the challenge of living your truth, rather than hiding from it.

You are that which you seek, but you have left your own deepness and are looking elsewhere.

Every moment of your life is either a test or a celebration. The same is true about every moment with your woman, only doubly so. Not only is her simple existence a test for you, but one of her deepest pleasures in intimacy is testing you, and then feeling you are not moved off course by her challenge.

Because a man’s priority is his mission, he will always gravitate to a woman whom he feels would most support his mission.

Feel through your woman and the world, and die in the giving of your gift.