As long as we are moving through life and have not become stuck, we are healing.
We often unknowingly re-create losses in an attempt to work through them, to do them better, to finally heal them. If we've been hurt by loss, we may find ways to protect ourselves against loss: we detach, we deny, we rescue others, we help them with their hurts so we don't have to feel ours, we become so self-sufficient that we will never need anyone.

Trying to find out who you are will lead you to the work you need to do, the lessons you need to learn. When our inner and outer beings are one, we no longer need to hide, fear, or protect ourselves. We see who we are as something that transcends our circumstances.

To know that this instant contains all the possibilities for happiness and love and not lose these possibilities in expectations of what the future should look like. In putting aside our sense of anticipation we can live in the sacred space of what is happening now.

The idea that letting go may be positive can be difficult until we realize that much of life is supposed to be lived with ease. We are not supposed to be in situations where we are banging our heads against the wall.

Those who have been immersed in the tragedy of massive death during wartime, and who have faced it squarely, never allowing their senses and feelings to become numbed and indifferent, have emerged from their experiences with growth and humanness greater than that achieved through almost any other means.

Learn to get in touch with silence within yourself and know that everything in this life has a purpose. There are no mistakes, no coincidences; all events are blessings given to us to learn from. There is no need to go to India or anywhere else to find peace. You will find that deep place of silence right in your room, your garden or even your bathtub.