Elisabeth Kübler-Ross Quotes

Somos culpables de haber destruido muchos dones de la naturaleza y de haber perdido toda espiritualidad.

"Sometimes we consciously or unwittingly adopt new roles as circumstances change and are hurt by the result. For instance, a couple may say, "It was so wonderful before we got married. Once we were married, something went wrong?" When the couple was together before, they were just being. The moment they got married they took on the roles that had been taught to them, trying to "be a husband" and "be a wife." On some subconscious level they "knew" what a husband or wife should be like and tried to act accordingly instead of being themselves and discovering what kind of spouses they wanted to be."

Don't wait for one last look at the ocean, the sky, the stars, or a loved one. Go look now.

acknowledging all that has been lost and learning to live with that loss. It would be too soon for Keith to be able to accept this situation. He can acknowledge the reality of the loss,

I realized I had a big stone wall around my heart. It was designed to protect me from hurt, but it also kept the love out.

The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to.” — Elizabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler

Just as we judge death as a failure, we feel relationships have failed if they do not last. The same way we say the only complete and successful life is one that lasted ninety-five years, we feel that the only successful and complete relationships are those that last forever.

The reality is that relationships are successful and heal us even if they only last six months. They do what they are supposed to. When they are no longer needed, they are complete and successful.

Unfortunately, we don't always know that relationships are complete and successful.

Jennifer was told to be strong for her children when her husband died. Today she wonders about the message her dry eyes implied. Did her children think she didn’t care? “What if I did cry in front of the kids? What if I modeled grief for them in that way? I could have said, ‘Mommy is sad and crying because Daddy has died.’ I could have reassured them that I was still strong enough to be there for them and take care of them.” Children need to know that strong people cry when loved ones die and that does not hamper their ability to go on with life.

Los sueños nos enseñan que nuestro ser querido no es, en esencia, la persona enferma de la que nos despedimos entre lágrimas en el hospital. Ni tampoco es el cuerpo que vimos en el tanatorio. Nuestro ser querido está sano y salvo, es la persona que conocimos y que echamos de menos ahora.

Ser infeliz y sufrir es como forjar el hierro candente, es la ocasión que nos es dada para crecer y la única razón de nuestra existencia.

Learning life's lessons is a little like reaching maturity. You're not suddenly more happy, wealthy, or powerful, but you understand the world around you better, and you're at peace with yourself.

When we face the worst that can happen in any situation, we grow. When circumstances are at their worst, we can find our best. When we find the true meaning of these lessons, we also find happy, meaningful lives. Not perfect, but authentic. We can live life profoundly.

Happiness comes from seeing ourselves as being okay, just as we are, today, without comparison to others, without reference to the way we were or the way we fear we will be.

You are alone. There is a wall now where none existed before, standing between you and the rest of the world.

I call it sniffing someone out. If they smell real, I give them a signal to come close.