Gary Chapman Quotes

The best thing we can do with the failures of the past is to let them be history.

إن اعترافك بالجهود التي يبذلها شريكك كي يصير شخصاً أفضل، وثناءك على صفاته الإيجابية، سيدفعه للقيام بمزيد من التغييرات

Those who say it is hypocritical to take positive action when they have negative feelings are operating on the assumption that the true self is determined by emotions. I am suggesting that is a false premise, and to the degree that it has permeated Western thinking, it has been detrimental to family relationships.

Mark Twain once said, “I can live for two months on a good compliment.

If you are to become an effective gift giver, you may have to change your attitude about money.

Your emotional love language and the language of your spouse may be as different as Chinese from English.

The decisions we make regarding vocation, child rearing, education, civic and church involvement, and other areas of life create changes that affect our marriage relationships. The manner in which couples process these changes will determine the quality of their marriages.

When I sit with my wife and give her twenty minutes of my undivided attention and she does the same for me, we are giving each other twenty minutes of life. We will never have those twenty minutes again; we are giving our lives to each other. It is a powerful emotional communicator of love.

Welcome to the real world of marriage, where hairs are always on the sink and little white spots cover the mirror, where arguments center on which way the toilet paper comes off and whether the lid should be up or down. It is a world where shoes do not walk to the closet and drawers do not close themselves, where coats do not like hangers and socks go AWOL during laundry. In this world, a look can hurt and a word can crush. Intimate lovers can become enemies, and marriage a battlefield.

Unconditional love is a full love that accepts and affirms a child for who he is, not for what he does. No matter what he does (or does not do), the parent still loves him. Sadly, some parents display a love that is conditional; it depends on something other than their children just being. Conditional love is based on performance and is often associated with training techniques that offer gifts, rewards, and privileges to children who behave or perform in desired ways.

"Respect begins with this attitude: "I acknowledge that you are a creature of extreme worth. God has endowed you with certain abilities and emotions. Therefore I respect you as a person. I will not desecrate your worth by making critical remarks about your intellect, your judgment or your logic. I will seek to understand you and grant you the freedom to think differently from the way I think and to experience emotions that I may not experience." Respect means that you give the other person the freedom to be an individual."

Most of us have more potential than we will ever develop. What holds us back is often a lack of courage.

I am amazed by how many individuals mess up every new day with yesterday.

In processing anger toward someone with whom you have a relationship, two questions are paramount: 1. Is my response positive — does it have the potential for dealing with the wrong and healing the relationship? 2. Is my response loving — is it designed for the benefit of the person at whom I am angry?

Love is a choice you make everyday.