American writer and success coach
Jen Sincero (born August 7, 1965) is an American writer, speaker and success coach.
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Once you’ve truly forgiven someone, wipe the slate clean. So often we form judgments about people and then, no matter what they do, we see them through the lens of that judgment. Which means we’re just waiting for them to piss us off again. Which means we’re still in the Forgiveness-lite stage; we’re pretending we’re cool but we’re really still holding on to some resentment. Release all expectations, let everyone off the hook, treat people as a blank slate over and over again, expect only the best from them regardless of what they’ve done in the past and you may be surprised. What you focus on, you create more of, and if you keep expecting people to annoy you they will not let you down. Focus on their finer points and encourage their good behavior if you want to create more of it.
Once you step away from the herd and let your true self shine, you'll probably find yourself in front of the opinion firing squad (especially if what you want to do is extraordinary and outside of everyone's comfort zones), which is why so many people run screaming from the lives they'd so love to live. Merely allowing yourself to be seen is a risk.
I mean, overall I was doing pretty well - I'd published a couple of books, had lots of good friends, a close family, an apartment, a car that ran, food, teeth, clothes, clean drinking water - compared to the majority of the planet, my life was a total cream stuff. But compared to what I knew I was capable of, I was, shall we say, unimpressed
We’re born knowing how to trust our instincts, how to breathe deeply, how to eat only when we’re hungry, how to not care about what anyone thinks of our singing voices, dance moves, or hairdos, we know how to play, create, and love without holding back. Then, as we grow and learn from the people around us, we replace many of these primal understandings with negative false beliefs, fear, shame, and self-doubt. Then we wind up in emotional and physical pain. Then we either numb our pain with drugs, sex, booze, TV, Cheetos, etc. Or we settle for mediocrity. OR we rise to the occasion, remember how truly mighty we are, and set out to relearn everything we knew at the beginning all over again.
Вселенная окружила нас превосходными учителями. Например, животными. Животные всегда присутствуют в настоящем. Они наделены тайной способностью втягивать в настоящее и нас. Когда моя подруга переступает порог своего дома, её пес радуется так, словно его пришли освобождать из сорокалетнего тюремного заключения. Даже если хозяйки не было всего час! Ты здесь. Я здесь. Я тебя люблю. Настолько, что сейчас описаюсь… Маленькие дети – тоже превосходные наставники. Они настолько глубоко погружаются в радость рисования, игр, исследования мира, что готовы забыть поесть, умыться и поспать. Они непрерывно пребывают в состоянии высоко концентрированного блаженства. Ибо ещё не научились беспокоиться о том, что подумают о них другие. Или печалиться из-за того, что не так талантливы в рисовании, как соседка Люси. Они пребывают в текущем моменте. И в этом – суть наслаждения жизнью. Конец истории. Было бы мудрым решением чаще брать пример с животных и младенцев.