« When you and I were first born, we were free from all the worldly tags. For us, nothing was good or bad. We were just there at the moment… The baby doesn’t judge you based on past mistakes, future endeavors, color, religion, or social status. The baby is just a cute little creature looking right into your eyes with curiosity. You make funny faces so the baby laughs and when the baby does, it makes you so happy as if you have won a Nobel prize.

Self-love is about knowing everything about yourself, however ugly or dark or bad your truth is, and accepting yourself with it. Self-love is about knowing how to transform your flaws into your strengths rather than hiding them inside you so that no one can see them. Self-love is about choosing yourself every single day to study your patterns, examine your behavior, knowing your thoughts (even if they are mean at times). Self-love is about creating a home deep inside you where you can be YOU without worrying about healing, pretending, or perfectionism. You are beautiful with your dark side not by hiding them under the mask of goodness.

When I was starting my journey as a writer, I used to watch and read the interviews of famous authors. And one thing was common in all of them. They all said the best ideas come into their mind when they are not looking for them or not doing anything at all. It’s not just the authors but if you ask any creative or artistic person, you will get the same answer. And I always thought that it was impossible until it happened to me.

imagine yourself as the main character of the movie that is your life. A movie like your life hasn’t been made yet, and a book like your life hasn’t been written yet. And that’s why you have the creative freedom in your hands to write it as you want, make it as bold and wild as you want, keep it as long as you can, and above all make it about yourself rather than following an old pattern that doesn’t empower you. You don’t want to play the role of victim in your own life. You don’t want to see yourself crying for someone you never had. You don’t want to victimize your character.

And this reminds me that even though we all want to be good and nice, we sympathize more with the villain of any web series or book. WHY? Villains show us that we all can be bad at times, not intentionally but because we are designed to feel all kinds of emotions.

If you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with then how will you become an average of yourself if you don’t spend any time with yourself? If you become like the person who you spend the most time with then does that mean you are going away from your real self for you don’t spend any time with yourself?