One must be rational about such matters and being rational need not mean being cold.
Man cannot live on charm alone, and an ambitious man cannot live on anything less than wealth, good social connections and substantial political influence.
Boredom on social occasions is an inescapable hazard for the over-educated, and for the over-ambitious it must be endured.
Recovering from an ill-starred romance is, after all, to anyone of sufficient will-power and self-respect, purely an attitude of mind.
A rational disposition must necessarily preclude a romantic outlook in life, and only the failures of this world can afford to dispense with a rational disposition.