You need a personal definition of success. Looking around you to see if you’re succeeding is no longer a realistic option. - Eric Barker

people change only when they feel they don’t have to. There’s a healthy (and effective) way to help your partner move in the direction of positive change. But it starts with who they want to be, not who you want them to be.

one of the reasons the not-nice programs performed so poorly is because they could not forgive and got caught in death spirals.

Research shows that “only 6 percent of people work in the profession they aspired to in childhood” and a third of people end up in a career that has nothing to do with their college major.