If I truly love another, I will obviously order my behavior in such a way as to contribute the utmost to his or her spiritual growth. - M. Scott Peck

Move out or grow in any dimension and pain as well as joy will be your reward. A full life will be full of pain.

The proper management of one's feelings clearly lies along a complex (and therefore not simple or easy) balanced middle path, requiring constant judgment and continuing adjustment. Here the owner treats his feelings (slaves) with respect, nurturing them with good food, shelter and medical care, listening and responding to their voices, encouraging them, inquiring as to their health, yet also organizing them, limiting them, deciding clearly between them, redirecting them and teaching them, all the while leaving no doubt as to who is the boss. This is the path of healthy self-discipline.

Benjamin Franklin said, “Those things that hurt, instruct.